Life is for continous practice of dharma. Our Tamil literature has dharmic books like Thirukkural, naaladiyasr etc. These books speak about the general code of conduct. But if we go through these books, we will understand that these codes of conduct are too high for an ordinary being. Take for example பொறையுடைமை in Thirukkural.
The first kural itself seems too idealistic for most of us.
அகழ்வாரைத் தாங்கும் நிலம் போல
தம்மை இகழ்வார் பொருத்தல்தலை.
But Kannagi is a classic example for this kural. Thus, though the codes are high in standard, we see examples for these codes in Tamil literature itself. But how come we find them difficult to follow i these days?
That is because there is a missing piece in the puzzle. We fail to read ashrama dharmam related books in sanskrit. Thoug smriti granthas like manu smriti are highly controversial, it is important to go through them. Because it lays down the ashrama dharmam or vishesha dharma of each varnam.
Only when these rules are followed, the codes of conduct set by books like Thirukkural can be achieved.
Our daily life should be for following dharma. Unless it is taken seriously and folllowed through out one's life, the ideals cannot be touched. In our mind, they will be ideal foe ever.
For example, our nithyakarmas like sandhya vandhanam and nithya poojai, are stated as our duties without attaching any direct fruit for our action. Thus, with a sense of duty, without expecting anything in return, when we do it for a long time, with faith , we become eligible for next level of learning.
Tamil community was following these ashrama dharmas right from the beginning . that is why Nayanmaars and aazhwars decorated this land.
Sanskrit is like foundation of beautiful house. Tamil is the house built on that foundation. One devoid of other carry little value.