But real life is different. Marriage is for convenience. Adjustment is expected and not surrender.
Marriage happens between two economically viable beings who value material pleasure as everything in life. Is there any question of humbleness also in this relationship? Equality is proclaimed in every action,killing the mildness of relationship. Taking care of elders in the family is definitely viewed as a great sacrifice one does for the other partner.
While in olden days obedience was forced on a woman for family welfare ,in modern days, we thrust equality in marriage there by destroying the delicateness in relationship.
Is there any perfect solution? There is.
Mother is the first guru of any child. She can impress upon her children to a great extent. Children should be made to do household tasks including cooking and cleaning. This brings about a sweeping mental change. This makes a child to appreciate and value others service.
Elders of the family should be served and respected.
Both husband and wife should believe in hospitality. The house should be thrown open for all relatives and friends. They should be welcomed with warmth. The kitchens should be kept busy for feeding them and treating them like kings and queens. The needs of guests should be considered primary,keeping their own needs as last.
If these basic things are provided by parents, a male child grows as a person who respects woman and girl child blossoms as a person who care for others. They grow with a sharp judgement knowing to differentiate good and bad,thereby helping them to take a right decision to choose a good partner.
When a good and loving partner is chosen, where is the question of surrender or obedience? It is union of hearts.
Net net,old values should be cherished for the sake of our own kids. Consciously, we can lead a good life.
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