Surrender and Marriage

 Faith plays an important place in our life.  We do not understand our religion because we neither practice the rituals nor we have faith. We want immediate results.  

So we should learn to trust and surrender. That is the great mission of everyone's life. A woman is given a chance to practice that in her life.  

To surrender means to get rid of one's ego.  Most of the times to stop thinking also.  The life of a woman a century ago was actually in line with this mission. With least or no education, she just trusted the system. Pain or pleasure she had to bear with it. No options were there.   

She was taught to respect her in laws and husband. To serve them. This is a pure spiritual training.  Having disregard to material benefits.  

We are unable to understand many aspects of Hinduism only because we see only material world and material benefits. We always equate sufferings to sin and pleasure to good deeds. Whereas, sufferings are for learning.  Since we refuse to learn, we fail to understand our religion. 

Of course material benefits which an individual yearns are sure to follow, when one does his or her dharma.

In fact a life as a woman, makes one an yearning learner.  What one learnt in ignorance, is actually a torch to knowledge.  Like byhearting tables. While byhearting we do not understand. While solving problem it becomes essential.

But when a woman understands and accepts this as her swadharma, she is no less a Gnani.  Kannagi Arundhadhi and all come under this category. They understood what was expected from them and why they have to do. And then did it.  That is why they are celebrated.  Husband is just a tool.  

Will continue.