For many days, this emotion was puzzling me. Is there anything apart from physical need in this? What craving in a human wants love from opposite sex? Can it be non physical also, like having a soul mate of same sex and sharing similar thoughts?
Any case, i concluded that love is nothing but guru sishya bhavam among couples. One person aspires the qualities of other. The other person sees him or her completely open enough to grasp his or her ideas. That is, one looks for a perfect disciple while other looks for perfect guru.
But unless guruthvam is maintained even after marriage, the charm and enthusiasm in marriage fails. That is why, i consider the ideal marriage as one between a rishi and rishi pathni.
Here, though rishi pathni may be allowed to have worldly desires, rishi is completely absorbed in divine and never misuses his wife for mere desires. The husband as a seeker always aspires wife to lead a dharmic life, thereby maintaining the newness in marriage.
Thus, for an aspiring soul, only highest can give happiness. The wordly love experienced, is very short lived, unless both the couples are established in dharma. If with dharma as guiding stick when a couple enter marital relationship, it will be a fulfilling life. Not living for material comforts, but for duties. Wife understands her duty to embrace husbands family, while husband appreciates her quality and respects her.
Thus, while love is a charming world, unless we learn to give up and sacrifice , it is practically unattainable or unmaintainable. But living for dharma is next best life, where both are equals. Shasthram ia the guru that guides both husband and wife and they both do their duty.
Dear friends, start the study of shasthram and have a fulfilled life. Gurubhyo Namaha🙏🙏